by Judy Mullican
“Wow! You are a great builder!” Ms. Tammy says as she looks at Josh’s complex block construction. No doubt Ms. Tammy means her words to be encouraging, and Josh probably enjoys hearing them. But research shows us that these words are not the most likely to lead Josh to develop persistence and a willingness to try challenging tasks. Ms. Tammy’s words can be termed people praise. That is, they focus on the type of person Josh is rather than his actions. In contrast, process praise focuses on a child’s actions and efforts. Using this type of praise, Ms. Tammy might say, “You worked on that building a long time, Josh. You balanced the blocks carefully so they didn’t fall. I think it’s the tallest one I have seen you build so far! Did it turn out the way you were hoping?” These words draw attention to Josh’s efforts and actions.
by Kelley Jilek
In your role as a parent or child care provider, one of the most important gifts you can provide small children is maintaining a positive attitude as you interact with them on a daily basis. Because attitudes are caught and not taught, your attitude and moods can impact the overall atmosphere in your home or child care setting.
Everyone has the capacity to remain positive during almost every situation; however, because our attitude is constantly bombarded by negative factors, an overall tune-up may be required at times. As you work with small children and other adults, you might often find yourself stressed, tired, and simply overwhelmed. When your attitude sags because of these factors, it can impact how you approach and interact with others, which in turn escalates their response and your potential stress.